"Before I enter into Another Relationship"

There’s a difference between being strong and being hardened. Have you carried your strength like armor — polished, uncracked, and admired by those who lean on it. But strength without rest, support, and reciprocity becomes a cage. And you can easily live inside it for too long.

Tell yourself - YOU need…

I need to be seen, not just noticed when I’m useful.

I need to be supported, not just when I fall, but when I rise.

I need space to feel without apologizing for the depth or sharpness of my emotions.

I need to stop proving my worth through resilience alone.

Because the truth is — I am unshakable at my core.

Tell yourself - YOU can’t any longer…

I can’t keep showing up full for people who meet me halfway only when it’s convenient.

I can’t keep shrinking my needs because they might make someone uncomfortable.

I can’t ignore the quiet ache that comes from always being “the strong one.

I can’t keep thinking that love — in any form — has to be earned through endurance.

So, before I enter another relationship — be it romantic or friendship — here’s what I promise myself:

• I will ask the hard questions early. Not because I’m suspicious, but because I’ve learned that transparency is love in action.

• I will listen to how I feel around people, not just what they say.

• I will stop over-functioning, doing emotional labor no one asked me to do but everyone got used to.

• I will receive as much as I give.

• I will let people show me who they are and believe them the first time.

  
  

This isn’t about walls. It’s about boundaries rooted in clarity and expectations grounded in self-respect.

Lastly,

If you’re reading this, you deserve this. Those who connect with you in the future: YOU come whole, but not to be handled — to be held. You are no less solid for needing support. You are no less valuable for asking for rest. You are no less worthy for choosing softness. Because the strongest thing you should ever do is choose relationships that honor all of YOU — not just the parts that serve others.

💫 Let’s Work Together to Thrive in Life

Now it’s your Turn. With guided help, Honor Your Core Before a New Relationship by asking yourself:

• What are the non-negotiable emotional needs I bring into every relationship?

• What patterns am I no longer willing to repeat in future relationships?

• What does a healthy boundary feel like in my body?

• Who or what has drained me lately? Who or what has energized me?

• If my next relationship was aligned, balanced, and mutual — how would I feel waking up each day?